The Secret to Keeping Peace

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Proverbs 15:1

The Secret to Keeping Peace. The Bible tells us in the Old Testament (and the New Testament) that it is not only possible to keep peace with others, but necessary to continue, regardless of the social glitches we encounter. Sometimes our relationships, and life in general, run smoothly. Other times, not so much, as life is a windy road with lots of twists and turns that may at times include disagreement, discord, and interpersonal strain. In today’s scripture we discover that in heated conversations, arguments, there is always a way to turn things around. This can happen before they get out of hand. But it may involve a quick prayer, thinking things through, and a little humility not to have to be right or have the last word…

A Gentle Answer Turns Away Wrath

In today’s Bible passage, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1), we discover that the secret to dealing with challenging people, conversations and strained relationships has been revealed. It is a variation of what is commonly known as being willing to agree to disagree, when faced with unsettling temporary or ongoing disharmony. With wide practical application, this biblical wisdom is highly effective in quelling anger and angst in both parties. It can be used during heated conversations with anyone: family, friends, neighbors, spouse, coworkers, or even your boss.

5 Ways to Keep Peace

In a way, quelling arguments all comes down to trying to do the following 5 things:

• Look for the good in everyone
• Realize that everyone is just doing the best they can
• Always try to find some sort of common ground with others
• Respond to others with kindness
• Pray a quick prayer as tempers rise. Ask God to give you the words to say to maintain peace and harmony. He will provide them in any and every circumstance!

When conversations go awry as they sometimes do, and we respond to others in a raised voice, and heat rises as tempers flare, it can easily lead to negativity, aggressive behavior or strained relationships. If it starts with you, the other person will likely do the same. That is why the advice found in Proverbs 15:1 is invaluable in our relationships, especially when they are being sorely tested. This timeless, practical scriptural advice/teaching is and priceless, and in keeping with basic Judeo-Christian teaching!

Simple Advice that Works

Giving a gentle answer may sound like very basic, overly-simplistic advice, but this time-tested Old Testament wisdom is really important and necessary for anyone who ascribes a biblical worldview and Godly lifestyle. This evergreen, sage advice has endured the test of time, and is as true today as it was well over 2000 years ago when it was written.

In essence, we need to find common ground, on our way to higher ground. By the time you, the other person, or both of you are spewing angry words, the discussion/argument has been lost by the aggressor; and that behavior, and those negative emotions, can propel you both forward, escalating, possibly even damaging, your relationship.

Called to Live in Peace

With Jesus as our guide and at our side, we as Christians are called to live in peace with everyone. We must strive to avoid unnecessary conflicts without sacrificing our faith beliefs. Yes—conflict is a part of life. Surely conflicts can and will arise at times, but how we handle ourselves is all part of our witness to the calling we have been given by God. We do not need to jump in with 2 feet. Part of our God-given calling involves trying to peacefully short circuit and sideline loud disputes and arguments before they get out of control. Our words can be harmful, and engaging in arguments can tarnish the worthiness of that calling. Using restraint in the words we choose is a testament to the Holy Spirit who resides in you. It the secret to keeping peace.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Proverbs 15:1 / NIV

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Adele M. Gill is a retired RN, certified Chaplain, freelance writer, award winning author of 6 books, and a recipient of the International Positive Change Podcast Award https://theinspirationcafeblog.net. She is also the founder/author of The Inspiration Café Blog. Adele may be reached via email at: adelemgill@gmail.com.